It was a great time for the both of us to unwind while my parents drove up to watch Madeline for the night. We were able to actually hide near the desserts table to spend some "us" time talking while sipping coffee and trying every dessert they offered. It gave us a chance to get out together and also gave us time to socialize. Jack and I get chances to eat out together when we visit my family but rarely do we get time to get out AND socialize with others. We haven't wrapped our minds around a babysitter yet but once Madeline celebrates her birthday in February, and we get settled in our new house, we might just have to find THAT sitter. Madeline and I do play dates with other mamas and their children, but somehow this was just a little more "freeing" than most times we get out.
It was a huge function held in a beautiful ballroom for over 700 employees and their partners. There was such a huge spread of young versus older people among the crowd. Throughout the evening, Jack and I were shaking a ton of hands (which i was OCD about hand washing because I forgot my hand sanitizer!), and meeting many diverse people young and old. As I spoke with some of the couples at our table (whom we knew little about till that evening except for a few friends), I was reminded of how this world is a little ungrateful and too blessed.
The couple sitting next to us was older. They had 3 kids most of them in their 20's. It was evident that he had been with the company for awhile and made it apparent that he was on the ___ floor, implying that was the floor of the "higher ups." They spoke about their youngest child after realizing that I was a former teacher. We began a discussion about education and school today. Before long it became very apparent that this couple was very well off, had all gifted children, had money and resources to live in the city when they were our age (they talked about buying their house at our age in downtown), put their children in daycare at 2 so they could have "me "time, couldn't understand why parents don't help their children with school, etc. In other words, it was apparent that they had little appreciation for the kind of life they live...not noting that they were fortunate. Instead, they griped about parents and not educating their children. Did it dawn on them that their children all are healthy, they have "naturally" gifted children (genes), they are educated enough themselves to teach their children, and have jobs that allow them to see their children during "regular hours", etc,
The entire time I was sitting next to them it dawned on me how many people in this world truly have no idea how blessed they are. I am sitting there realizing that we have one income, an only child with a life threatening illness, and we could not afford to buy a house even near the city and yet, I feel so grateful and happy for everything I have. I am not sure why that night provoked all these thoughts but I will tell you that when life gives you the good and the bad...you learn to live with it, make the best of it, and in the end become a better and more thankful person.
Dealing with a CF with my first born and only child has made me stronger, teaching children that are disadvantaged has made me realize how even "good parents" cannot always give them children what they need because someone has to pay the bills. This couple didn't understand that some parents WANT to help their children but they cannot because they have to work 50 plus hours to pay for their families, that they cannot be home to teach their children skills, that they don't have the resources/money to buy a house in a nice neighborhood so they can have the BEST school system.
Sometimes you wish you could knock some sense into people. I am just glad that I see how fortunate WE are. It's hard realizing that these people live day to day unaware of what they truly have in life. The evening was so wonderful in so many ways...
We wrapped up the night with some stupid pictures before kissing our little girl goodnight and heading off to bed ourselves.